tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-75085278400002706842024-03-05T00:40:07.284-07:00Christian, Mom, Wife, Faculty Member, ...Daily (or whenever) Musings of Christian, Mom, Wife, Faculty Member, and Whatever Else God Chooses for MeAJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.comBlogger75125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-88850558608111932782012-07-25T12:41:00.000-06:002012-07-25T12:41:50.910-06:00Chik-Fil-A vs. JcPenneyWell, if you haven't heard it already, Chik-Fil-A is being bashed because the CEO stated he agrees with traditional marriage and not with same-sex marriage. Because of his statement, people are claiming that Chik-Fil-A hates gays, etc. On a similar note, JcPenney included a two-father family in its recent Father's Day ad, which got a little bit of attention on the opposite side of things. <br />
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What gets me really worked up is the word "hate." I personally believe that marriage should only be between one man and one woman. Does this mean I hate gays? No. I have extended family and co-workers that are homosexual. I treat them just like anyone else. I may not be as close to them (in the case of family - but I am not close to others in their same relationship either), but when I do see them, I don't treat them differently at all. But, I feel that marriage (one man, one woman) is best. And by saying that a same-sex relationship is the same, we are saying that they are equal. <br />
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After much thought, I have decided that civil unions should be allowed and with the same benefits. We can't force people to share our beliefs and live the lives we think is best. It is no different that alcohol, cigarettes, etc in my book. All are harmful to the individual, but it isn't the government's place to legislate them. And the main reason is that the relationship doesn't hurt others. It isn't infringing other other's well-being, so the government shouldn't step in. But, as the same time, I want the word marriage to remain what is has been in the past- the union of one man and one woman.<br />
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By saying any of this, am I being hateful? I don't think so. But I guess everyone has the right to say what they want...<br />
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And if people who support homosexuality don't want to eat at Chik-Fil-A, that is their right. I don't mind one bit! That is a freedom we have. <br />
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<br />AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-40983561623018329832012-01-30T16:58:00.002-07:002012-01-30T17:18:46.168-07:00MarriageRecently a couple of friends have started on the road to divorce. Seeing these marriages fail got me to thinking about why our marriage is still going strong, probably stronger than it 6-7 years ago (we have been married 9.5 years). Have we just been lucky? <br /><br />I think the answer is that we have been blessed by God without some of the problems some families face. But, I also think we have done some things that have helped us maintain a strong marriage.<br /><br />First, we both were believers when we got married. Neither of us were super strong in our faith, but both of us had the desire to grow. This is important because the Bible says:<br /><span style="font-size:85%;">Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? <sup class="versenum" id="en-KJV-28915"></sup>And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. <sup class="versenum" id="en-KJV-28916"></sup>Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you. <sup class="versenum" id="en-KJV-28917"></sup>And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.<br />2 Corinthians 6:14-18</span><br /><br />Second, we have learned to follow the roles God laid out. To an unbeliever, being a submissive wife might seem demeaning or "un-feminist." But, as a believer, I have found this to be very rewarding and not in the least bit demeaning. It first takes learning to submit to God. This I learned the best when I was pregnant with AJU5. Her pregnancy wasn't our plan at the time. I wanted to work full time longer (i had only been full time for a year). We were looking for a new house. We had plans. But, God had a better plan. I learned to submit to that over time. It took until Week 18 of that pregnancy to start submitting really, but I did. Putting our future in His hands made everything so much simpler. There had been times in the past we have put things in His hands - my husband's job during his senior year of college, finding our first home, etc. But, this one was the first time that I really had to submit and I couldn't do anything else. My husband had to learn to love me as Christ loves the church as well. To a woman, this seems easy. As women, it is easy to love. But, for men it is a lot harder. He has learned to nurture me. He has learned to support me when I need it. He has learned when to back off for a few minutes and let me settle down. Are either of us perfect in this? No. There are times I don't want to submit to him and rebel. There are times he isn't very loving. But, most of the time when we start to get close to a fight, I think both of us remember these verses:<br /><span style="font-size:85%;"><sup class="versenum" id="en-KJV-29327"></sup>Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. <sup class="versenum" id="en-KJV-29328"></sup>For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. <sup class="versenum" id="en-KJV-29329"></sup>Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. <sup class="versenum" id="en-KJV-29330"></sup>Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; <sup class="versenum" id="en-KJV-29331"></sup>That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, <sup class="versenum" id="en-KJV-29332"></sup>That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. <sup class="versenum" id="en-KJV-29333"></sup>So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. <sup class="versenum" id="en-KJV-29334"></sup>For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: <sup class="versenum" id="en-KJV-29335"></sup>For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. <sup class="versenum" id="en-KJV-29336"></sup>For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. <sup class="versenum" id="en-KJV-29337"></sup>This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.<br />Ephesians 5:22-33</span><br /><p>Finally, we spend time together. We are home 6 nights a week. The night we aren't together we are spending time studying and learning about God. We probably should go to evening services at church more (there are two other nights during the week we could go), but since the end of AJU7's pregnancy it hasn't been easy. There isn't a kids' program those nights, so we are always distracted by them. And it runs right up to if not past their current bed time (7:30). But, those are excuses... Back to spending time together. We aren't going different directions every night of the week. We spend time as a family and as a couple, even though we don't go on dates. Most nights after the kids are in bed we do something together (normally watching TV for about 45 minutes). But, we also have played games, etc. I think this helps our marriage a lot because we have a chance to grow together both as a family and as a couple.</p><p>So, there it is. I count it a blessing we haven't had any big fights in about 5 years. We have had small ones, but we used to have a lot more fights for sure...<br /></p>AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-29570831236492523972012-01-04T11:46:00.002-07:002012-01-04T12:01:17.817-07:00Birth Control, Politics,etcI recently saw this <a href="http://thinkprogress.org/health/2012/01/03/396516/santorum-states-should-have-the-right-to-outlaw-birth-control/">post</a>, and it got me thinking. I have recently been looking a little closer at how most contraceptives work, and well, I am not happy with what I am finding. <br /><br />So, in the beginning, the "pill" was meant to prevent ovulation and conception. Personally, I have no problems with contraceptives that are designed like this. But, it turns out that the "pill" was not effective enough. The hormones didn't work for everyone, so they decided to change it. Now, the "pills" also affect the uterine wall, which prevents implantation OR promotes a very early miscarriage. This is were most Christians (including myself) have problems. I believe life begins at conception. I don't want to add something to my body that will promote the loss of life. I know it happens naturally sometimes, but that doesn't mean I want it to happen artificially. Some might take the stand that preventing implantation is okay (often the medical definition of life begins at implantation), but what the "pill" does now even would be a loss of life to those people. This goes for the mini pill too! Oh, and the IUD. And the patch, and well, pretty much all non-barrier contraceptives...<br /><br />So, now to Santorum's point. I am not completely up on politics. I live in a state with a later primary, so I am waiting until things "thin out" to look too closely. But, I wonder if SOME of his point is that this should be a state issue - not a federal issue. Our federal government has definitely overstepped its rights recently. If you look at the rolls of the federal government, many of the things our current government handles it shouldn't. The states have a lot less power than our founding fathers planned/desired/wanted.<br /><br />Now, with that being said, do I think all contraceptives should be outlawed? No. I personally have 0 problem with the barrier options. Condoms, etc I don't think should ever be outlawed. But, I think those methods of birth control that do increase the likelihood of an early miscarriage should, at the VERY LEAST, be only offered once how they work is fully explained. People need to know that it isn't that much different than the morning after pill. <br /><br />Now for those that say without contraceptives women are going to have a ton of babies are also wrong. There are also natural ways to control when you get pregnant. NFP, etc are almost as affective when you have regular cycles. Now there are devices to help even those with irregular cycles determine when they are fertile, which means a form of NFP can be used (I don't know if they are available in the US just yet, but one article I read said they are in Europe and the FDA is working on approving them here). But, it means women have to do a little more than taking a pill a day, which I guess some people don't want. But, if it was the only option, I bet most would use it! Add in the barrier options, and I bet our birth rates wouldn't change much. I would venture to bet that the abortion rate (assuming it was still legal) would even drop because women would be more aware of their bodies, etc...AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-44459628904442286002010-06-07T14:53:00.002-06:002010-06-07T14:58:41.574-06:00EnvironmentSo, I am not an environmentalist. But, as I/we have been making choices, it has been interesting to see that something that is considered "green" may not always be the most green option. Here are two examples:<br /><br />Cloth Diapering<br />Yes, there is less garbage with cloth diapering. But, you use more water and electricity washing the diapers. So, it terms of impact on the environment, it is really a wash!<br /><br />Xeroscaping<br />Xeroscaping obviously uses less water. And, you don't have to mow anything! But, they have found that having grass near your house reduces the temperature inside. That means if you live in a hot climate, you will use less electricity cooling your house. I don't know if it is a complete wash, but it isn't as close as they would want you to see!<br /><br />I wonder if similar things will come out about hybrid and electric cars. I know the batteries may already be an issue (how do you dispose of them?)...<br /><br />Your thoughts?AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-63982323035435419642010-02-08T09:42:00.003-07:002010-02-08T09:53:23.876-07:00ChoiceIn the wake of the Tebow/Focus on the Family commericial during the Superbowl, I thought I would write a post about choice.<br /><br />First, I think Pam Tebow had a choice. I think all women in her situation should have a choice. They should be able to know what the probability is that she would die, the baby would die, they both make it, etc and then make an informed decision. In almost every case, there isn't a 100% probability for any one of the outcomes, and the mom and dad have to decide what is best for them. I think most pro-life people would agree with me that if there is a very high risk the mom would die, then termination might be an option. If that risk is accompanied by a equal or greater risk of the baby dying, it becomes even more of a legitimate option in the minds of pro-life supporters. <br /><br />But, what about if only the baby's life is at risk, like a baby with Trisomy 13 or 18? My question is what does abortion do for that family? MAYBE they won't become as attached to the little one, but since they already have pictures of the baby, I doubt that. Some of these kids live for years with the condition. Some lives for months. Some live for days. Some live for minutes, and some are born still. But, I don't see why so many people push to have these babies aborted. If they are going to die, why not let them live as long as they can first?<br /><br />Okay, now for the "hot" topic - unwanted pregnancy. With the exception of rape, the woman who is pregnant had a choice BEFORE she got pregnant. She chose to have relations. She weighed the risks of that. I think that should be the only choice she gets. If you are going to have relations, you have to be willing to accept the "consequences" of such actions. We need to get back to living in a society where your actions have consequences! I think this would cut down on the number of STDs as well because people would be a little less willing to have relationships with people they are not committed to. <br /><br />As for rape victims, I am not sure how I stand on this issue. I have read about people who were raped, had an abortion, and felt like they had been raped twice as a result. I have also read people say that it can cause emotional problems to have to carry a baby conceived in such a cruel manner. Personally, I would keep the baby because I believe it is a gift from God even if the act wasn't. But, I don't know if I could force my beliefs on that on others. It is a very sticky subject for sure.<br /><br />So, that is my take on things. What do you think?AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-74641930420714126172010-01-15T18:13:00.003-07:002010-01-15T18:40:51.330-07:00MonkeysSo, AJU6 (our 7 week old son), has a lot of monkey things. Monkeys and dogs are the common decorations on infant boy clothing this year it seems. I don't have anything wrong with monkeys, but some of the sayings on the clothes could easily be taken wrong.<br /><br />Now how could they be taken wrong? It comes down to evolution. Things like "Mommy's little monkey" could easily be construed as thinking we are just another primate. We are not. We are a special creation of God. We are made in His image, unlike the other animals. Yes, we have a lot in common with primates, but we also have almost as much in common with many other animals! This is all because there is a common Creator who, as one would expect, used some common templates. <br /><br />So, it makes me think about what I should put on him. I know around close friends what he is wearing won't impact them. They share our belief, so they know he is just wearing things because they look cute. But, out in public it could easily be taken as support for evolution. Well, I wouldn't say support per se. So many people don't understand the debate at all. They just get fed evolution from birth and have no idea about any of the issues with the theory.<br /><br />So, what do you think?AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-35481817592406690832009-11-02T10:52:00.002-07:002009-11-02T10:58:26.401-07:00How your health insurance may change...With the new health care bill about to be passed, what is going to happen to those people who currently have insurance through their employer? Well, if you work for a for-profit company, be prepared for some unwanted changes!<br /><br />To abide by this bill, companies have to find a way to deal with the taxes, etc that will be imposed on them. And, for most of us, that means our coverage will change one way or the other. For some it will be a reduction in what is covered or how much is covered. For others it will be increased premiums. Regardless, it means your insurance won't be as good for the money you spend. <br /><br />So, what do I think will happen in the long run? If there is a public option in the final bill, then eventually that will be the only option. Individuals and companies will realize that it is cheaper to go that route, and so they will. Then, insurance companies will fold because they don't have enough clients. In the end, there may be one or two insurance companies out there, but the majority of Americans will use the public option because it is really their only choice...AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-51404747126786370642009-09-01T13:28:00.003-06:002009-09-01T13:37:57.779-06:00Memorial ServiceSunday morning will be my grandmother's memorial service. She died 7 months ago, but because she chose to be cremated, we decided to wait until now to do the service so more of us could attend. I wasn't that close to my grandparents because I didn't see them that often. We moved over 1000 miles away when I was about 3 months old, and we never moved back. I remember her visiting about once a year and our visits up there occasionally. I remember letters and gifts from her and to her, but our relationship was little more than that.<br /><br />Somehow I got "nominated" to do the Scripture reading at the service. I know God's hand is in this for sure! The majority of the family knows the Truth but has chosen to not accept it for themselves. I know one uncle, his wife, and two of their three kids (one of which won't be there) are saved, but the others we are unsure of. So, I think it is fitting that this uncle and I are the two doing the "Christian" portions of the service - the reading and the closing prayer. <br /><br />But, this has made my choice of Scripture challenging. First, I only want to say what God would have me to say. So, I have been praying for about two months about what verses to say. Second, I want to chose a verse that has meaning but won't offend. I want a passage that will make those who haven't accepted Christ to think about their relationship with Him without closing any doors that might be cracked already. So, I have narrowed it down to three passages:<br /><ul><li>John 3:16-17</li><li>John 14:1-4</li><li>Romans 14:7-9</li></ul>I emailed this list to my uncle (and she showed it to his wife). They like the Romans passage, but think reading all three would be fine too. So, I am leaving it in God's hands now. Hopefully He will make it clear what to read on Sunday. I know my uncle and aunt are praying for me. I know my church family here is praying as well as my husband. Hopefully through the service at least one seed will be planted.AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-50348019322556410762009-08-18T11:51:00.002-06:002009-08-18T14:24:52.591-06:00Health CareOkay, so there is a lot of debate about the current health care bill out there. Personally, I like the coverage we have now. But, in a little over a year, it will change. My husband's employer can no longer afford to offer the plans it does now. Instead, it is going to a one-sized fits all approach with a health savings plan. All of the details haven't been announced, but it doesn't sound as good as what we have now!<br /><br />That being said, I think the coverage we are going to get will still be better than the government's plan. It will still be a PPO. It will still be managed by the same carrier we have now. We just may have to pay more for things 9but pay less each month for that coverage). <br /><br />What scares me about the government's plan? Well, a lot of things. Here is <a href="http://www.crown.org/media/relatedcontent/mymoneylife/081809mml.aspx">an article</a> I read today (very short). I really feel that within 10 years of the plan being in place that private insurance will be gone. The government will be able to offer its plan at very low cost. There are also rumors of having private insurance taxed, meaning more Americans would pick the government option. So, what is the problem? With only one option, we won't have choices. We will have to jump through unnecessary hoops to get the care we want. There will probably be longer waits to see a doctor (like there is in Canada and the UK already). Basically, the quality of care we have now will not be there.<br /><br />So, what do I want to see? Well, in a perfect world, the cost of insurance would not be so high. That would mean the actual cost for service would have to drop. But, with our sue-happy nation, that isn't going to happen! (Also, covering for illegal immigrants getting treatment in the ERs is killing many states' healthcare systems.) So, here is one idea:<br />The government would provide catastrophic coverage for all Americans. Then, those with chronic conditions would be offered insurance through the government on a buy-in basis (i.e. the amount they have to pay will be dependent upon their income and very affordable). For the rest of us, we would be able to buy private insurance like we can now. Because catastrophic coverage is already provided by the government, the insurance premiums should be less. They aren't going to have to make as many big pay-outs, so their costs would be less. Each American could then decide what level of coverage they want. For some, it might just be having a health savings plan if they are young and healthy. Others would opt for more coverage based on their projected needs. For example, if you are planning on having kids, you would want a plan that has good coverage for prenatal care and delivery. If you are accident-prone, you would want good ER coverage. <br /><br />What do you think about this whole health care thing?AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-11663353609312734942009-07-13T10:01:00.002-06:002009-07-13T10:11:25.740-06:00Mission Trip VBS<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiwgmVHSTOH6Vb9_OZbqUJ8dqeTAFdJa2Pl1SaZNSIf61JTTNGNY1Nz8FI43tnkMoLv1I91roVxqPzkSf5BRlOgSpmqVZgEIAmHV3zWfoiV11V_xXYY3nhveueRT6k9PqqDd3ZGLIQEitSh/s1600-h/Reading+Bible.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 395px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiwgmVHSTOH6Vb9_OZbqUJ8dqeTAFdJa2Pl1SaZNSIf61JTTNGNY1Nz8FI43tnkMoLv1I91roVxqPzkSf5BRlOgSpmqVZgEIAmHV3zWfoiV11V_xXYY3nhveueRT6k9PqqDd3ZGLIQEitSh/s400/Reading+Bible.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5357977910549330482" border="0" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhyK3fmiUVVeinzcjCYcWc-2dy9v6Ys96MHZmUkp9qwOdO4ZynYQS6HabpFTMQ7nJbIZ-s3jIBpTb-6BBfSGe_hcrOKxp_P3cB78-2hwSz0IzX15m5aWeLsn93Fc0DdwNOID_tkS5OUa87k/s1600-h/Giving+Bible.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 281px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhyK3fmiUVVeinzcjCYcWc-2dy9v6Ys96MHZmUkp9qwOdO4ZynYQS6HabpFTMQ7nJbIZ-s3jIBpTb-6BBfSGe_hcrOKxp_P3cB78-2hwSz0IzX15m5aWeLsn93Fc0DdwNOID_tkS5OUa87k/s400/Giving+Bible.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5357977900221342082" border="0" /></a><br />Three years ago (2006), I went on our church's mini-mission trip to help with a VBS on an "Indian" Reservation about 3 hours away. This year, AJU5 and I went back. Three years ago, I didn't leave all emotional. Yes, I had a good time and enjoyed teaching the kids, but for one reason or another my emotions didn't get touched by the experience. This year, a little girl touched my heart! We only did a three day VBS this year because we were originally told the chapter house would be unavailable due to construction (they haven't started yet...). The first two days, this little girl cried half of the time. She wanted to be with her sister. So, my friend K would take her and the little ones that iddn't want to sit with the class out to play near the older group. On Day 3 while we were doing the openning songs, she sat at the table and started to look at my Bible. She stayed with the class until lunch time (there was free lunch at the chapter house for the kids that we didn't know about until we got there). By that point, we were done with the lesson and craft anyways. Just before she went to have lunch, I was able to give her a Bible of her own. I was holding back tears until all of the kids were gone that day. I cried when I retold the story Sunday at church. And tears are starting to fall now.<br /><br />I don't know if I will go back next year. It all depends on how my kids are (i.e. traveling with a 7 month old and a 2.5 year old may not be wise). But, I do hope to go back! There is a chance she won't be there next year. The 4 and 5 year olds were missing this year, so we suspect there is a summer preschool program for them (I had 3 three year olds plus three of our own kids). Even if I don't go, I will be waiting for stories about her!AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-6833470569771584872009-06-22T11:19:00.002-06:002009-06-22T15:16:03.161-06:00Bumper StickerHave you ever seen the "God is my co-pilot" bumper stickers? The original one had a big flaw in terms of theology. If God is the co-pilot, then you would be the pilot. That would mean you were in charge, not God. But, as many of us have learned the hard way, God is always the one in control. He let's us think we are in control some times, but He is the true pilot of our lives. We can make plans (and should), but His plans may be different. It can be hard to deal with, but if you understand that God's plans are always better, it helps. The hardest part is not knowing why God's plans are better- something we may not see until we are in heaven (if we even remember to ask).<br /><br />I was talking to my MIL last night. They have a small hay farm, and the hay is ready to be cut, etc. But, it has been raining a lot lately there. So, they can't cut until the ground is somewhat dry. She mentioned she has been praying for ht rain to stop, but she doesn't know if that is God's will. So, I told I would pray: "God, in our minds, it seems it would be best if the rain would stop. If this is truly best, please let the rain stop. If not, do what is best." (or something very similar)<br /><br />When have you had to learn God is in control - that He is the pilot and we are just the co-pilots?AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-75998465363506552682009-06-09T12:30:00.002-06:002009-06-09T12:33:44.099-06:00New Post - Finally (Economy)Sorry it has been so long since i posted. First was the terrible, horrible, little to no good morning sickness that rendered me pretty much useless for a few weeks. Then there was the 9 days traveling. Between those and now, I have had some ideas, but I always forgot them before I got to the computer. But, today, I am able to get a post out!<br /><br />So, do you think any thing Obama has done has or will help the economy in the next 24 months? IS there good int he stimulus package? Is there good in the bail-outs? <br /><br />Will the "good" affect you or just the nation as a whole? Will you be hurt by some of his plans?<br /><br />I want comments!AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-26794718597133024042009-04-17T12:13:00.002-06:002009-04-17T12:19:39.488-06:00Gay MarriagePersonally, I don't think it should be legal. But there is more to this than that. Most of it comes down to what rights they don't have/do have. <br /><br />Does a gay/homosexual person have the right to marry?<br />Yes<br /><br />Does a gay have the right to marry the person he/she loves?<br />No, but we aren't guaranteed that right either. What if you loved your sister? Could you marry her? No. What if you loved a married man, could you marry him? No. There are lots of cases where you can't marry the person you love... and I don't hear people crying foul on these...<br /><br />Are there things the government needs to work out in terms of rights?<br />Depends on the state. Most states have expanded the next o kin to include persons chosen by the injured/sick/deceased. But, you have to have a will/living will for this to work. Many companies and states have allowed domestic partners to receive benefits as well. The only thing that I know of that is totally not accessible to domestic partners (verses married couples) is Social Security. And personally, I think this program is falling apart enough as it is... I just wish we could get rid of it because it is going bankrupt. No one should depend on getting money out of it if you aren't at or very near retirement right now...<br /><br />What are your thoughts? What rights do gays not have? By giving them those rights, are we opening ourselves up for greater issues later?AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-68111620177424119022009-03-25T11:12:00.002-06:002009-03-25T11:16:53.680-06:00Trusting GodI have a re-occurring problem of trying to make my own plans and not wanting to follow God's plans. I like to be in control/to think I can do things on my own. I have gotten better at not blaming God when He "says" He has other plans, but I am still guilty of making lots of plans without praying about them first. <br /><br />Do you trust God in all areas of your life? Do you like to be in control?AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-74118218643995218942009-03-18T13:36:00.002-06:002009-03-18T14:15:01.101-06:00Birth ControlThis post will be about the basic options and the moral issues some have with them. Feel free to share what you think! This is just a basic overview of what I know...<br /><br />Hormone Options (Pill, Patch, etc)<br />The originally, the goal of these methods was to prevent the body from ovulating. But, they found out that even with high doses, some women still ovulated. So, now they also prevent implantation in the event you do ovulate, etc. As a result, many Christians have issue with these. Because they prevent implantation, there can still be conception. So, many feel that this method causes very early abortions. Also, for some women (like Mrs. Duggar), the embryo will implant but will not survive due to the poor uterine lining caused by the birth control.<br /><br />Barrier Options (Condom, Diaphragm, etc)<br />These methods prevent the sperm from getting to the egg. The only object some have with these methods (morally) is that you are having relations without a chance of conception. You are relations without a chance of pregnancy (i.e. the Catholic objection to most birth control). But, in my mind, God can still cause the barrier to fail if He wanted you pregnant - they are 100% effective!<br /><br />Surgical Methods (Tubal Ligation/Vasectomy)<br />These two methods (as well as the new Essure method) create a "hole" in one partner's plumbing so that either the egg or sperm is not available for conception. The moral objections to a vasectomy are the same as to the barrier methods. With the tubal ligation, there may be an increased chance of ectopic pregnancy. So, as a result some women choose to not have it done because they are afraid of being the cause of causing a child to die (similar to the issues with hormonal methods).<br /><br />Family Planning<br />There are many versions of this, but the general principle is that you chart and determine when you ovulate. You refrain for relations or use a barrier method during the period of time you may become pregnant. The only moral objection to this is not giving God complete control (in some people's minds). <br /><br />How do you feel about birth control? Did you know about all of these moral issues? Do you know of more moral issues?<br /><br />Please Share Your Ideas!AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-46594439348271363062009-03-16T10:57:00.002-06:002009-03-16T11:23:36.819-06:00ForgivenessThis weekend, I had an experience watching someone struggle with forgiveness. My brother-in-law was struggling to forgive his dad and younger brother for selling his car stereo (it was in the younger brother's car, and they didn't take it out when they sold it). They offered to pay him for it, but he wasn't willing to forgive them. It turned up into a big argument/fight (as normally does when this BIL gets upset). <br /><br />In the end, one of the brothers finally put it this way - they have asked for forgiveness. It is now in your hands. It is between you and God at this point.<br /><br />The Bible says this is true. Here are some verses:<br />Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. Colossians 3:13<br /><br />Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven: Luke 6:37<br /><br />For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. Moreover when ye fast, be not, as the hypocrites, of a sad countenance: for they disfigure their faces, that they may appear unto men to fast. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward. Matthew 6:14-16<br /><br />And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. Mark 11:25AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-18182245800571461312009-03-10T12:28:00.002-06:002009-03-10T12:37:45.954-06:00El ShaddaiLast night in our Faith Bible Institute class, we were studying the names of God. One of the names we covered was El Shaddai - The Mighty God. Literally, El Shaddai means the breasted one. John Yates went into an analogy about God and us. An infant/toddler is crawling towards the edge of a cliff. His mom tries to get him to come to her by chasing after him, etc, but he only goes closer to the edge (thinking his mom is playing). Then, in a last ditch effort, she pares her breast in an effort to get the baby to come away from the edge. The baby natural comes to his mom to nurse.<br /><br />This description reminds us that God draws us to Him, just as a mom can draw her baby. He draws us to Him when we are wandering dangerously close to the edge. Have you seen God work in your life like this? I have. Some times you don't notice the callings and drawings at the time, but they are there. A friend may say something. Someone might ask you to do something to help them. There might be a special service or event at church you feel called to attend. Whatever it is, God is calling you back to Him before He has to call you home.<br /><br />***********************************<br /><br />Sunday I got my diploma from Faith Bible Institute. I completed the six semesters/three years through the Bible in December. My husband and one of our friends also completed it at the same time. I highly recommend some sort of complete, chronological study of the Bible. Studying this way allows you to put all the stories together. It gives you a better foundation for studying the Bible on your own.AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-87458815622898016492009-03-03T15:05:00.002-07:002009-03-03T15:15:11.044-07:00Children/Age of AccountabilityHere is <a href="http://heyyall.typepad.com/hey_yall/">Jen L's</a> question:<br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">I've been thinking a lot about kids and Christianity. A friend recently posted on FB that her 18 month old son had helped her lead worship at school one morning (she's the music director at a church school) and that he was clapping and raising his hands in praise and she was so proud of him for worshiping like that. Maybe I'm rude for saying this, but I think he was just imitating behavior he had seen. Our kids are only a few months behind him age-wise, and I don't think either of them really understands the concept of praise and worship, no matter how much we've ha them in church. I grew up in church and did a lot of the same things I saw the adults doing, but until I was around 7, I didn't really start to understand. I don't think it was until I was in middle school that I really understood the idea of praise and being a Christian. It is definitely importatnt to instill our Christian values in our kids from a very young age, but I guess my question for discussion is what is the age of accountability? When do you think kids are really able to grasp the concepts of what it means to be a Christian? Obviously it's a constant process, as I am still learning new aspects of it myself. An interesting topic for us moms of youngsters, I think!</span><br /><br />I don't know if there is an actual age for the age of accountability, but it is something I definitely believe in (see David's son for an example). Some kids I think can grasp the concept at 5 or so. Others don't grasp it until 7 or 8 I bet. Then there are those with mental impairments that may never be able to fully grasp the concept.<br /><br />I totally agree with you that the 18 month old was probably just mimicking. But, this is a great way to teach the little ones how to behave in church, etc. If you set the examples early on, it is easier to get them to follow it. This is why I am actually glad AJU5 sits with me most Sundays at church. We got to a very small church, and so we don't have a true nursery (we have a room, but there aren't enough kids to really have someone in there during service). She is learning how to sit in church, how to pray, and how to worship God. These are things we will have to explain to her later, but she is getting the ideas now. <br /><br />I think you are also right when you say it is all a process. There are teenagers and adults even that have accept Christ as their Saviour but have not fully understood what it meant. They just followed along. Now, that isn't to say that these people aren't saved, but it is a big reason for discipleship and Christian education. I know I am still learning a lot about my faith! There are things I believed when I first was saved that I don't agree with now. There are things I didn't even know about then that I have strong convictions on now. <br /><br />+*+*+*+*+*+*+*+*+*+*+*+*+<br /><br />So, I answered the "two" questions I got. I don't know if anyone else reads this, but if you have other things you want me to discuss, let me know! I am more than willing to try and conquer any question!AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-30515538595238586692009-02-26T13:21:00.002-07:002009-02-26T13:29:32.294-07:00Part Two of Mary-Lou's QuestionHere is the question <a href="http://www.blogger.com/profile/10270726693980247861">Mary-Lou</a> asked:<br /><span style="font-style: italic;">I don't know if you have already posted this, but I always love hearing abut the personal spiritual journeys of people. How did you come to Christ? <span style="font-weight: bold;">What has been your biggest challenge? What has been your greatest joy? How do you related to Jesus... Lord, Teacher, Savior? (I ask that last one because I think he is ALL of those things, but I realize that I tend to turn to him more as Lord than Teacher, etc. It is something I work on, continuing to develop all aspects of my relationship with him.)</span><br /><br /></span><span>I answered the first part earlier this week with my testimony. Now on to the rest of it.<br /><br />I would say my biggest challenge is submitting to God. I like to be in control. I like to do things myself. But, I know things would be easier if I let God have the pilot seat and I took the co-pilot role. He has shown us that He is in charge, and even then we got mad at Him. We we found out we were pregnant with AJU5, it took us about a month to accept that it was His will. We did learn from this and didn't get upset with the most recent pregnancy (which ended in a miscarriage), but we did ask why! I wish I was better at handing even the simple things over to Him though. I find that when I pray about even simple issues, they work out a lot simpler than when I try to do it on my own!<br /><br />I would say my greatest joy is AJU5. Now, she is also a big headache, but as some of my colleagues have said, I seem the happiest now with her. God called me to be a mother, and I am enjoying it.<br /><br />Jesus is more Savior to me each day. But, I should lean on Him more as teacher and Lord. Like I said above, I tend to take control and not hand things over like I should. I like to be lord of my life, but He should be the Lord. I am also learning from Him through His Word, but I don't study as much as I should. Hopefully I will continue to grow in these areas!<br /><br />Feel free to answer these questions yourself!<br /></span>AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-2966696017901228702009-02-24T08:12:00.003-07:002009-02-24T08:31:12.624-07:00My TestimonyHere is the question <a href="http://www.blogger.com/profile/10270726693980247861">Mary-Lou</a> asked:<br /><span style="font-style: italic;">I don't know if you have already posted this, but I always love hearing abut the personal spiritual journeys of people. How did you come to Christ? What has been your biggest challenge? What has been your greatest joy? How do you related to Jesus... Lord, Teacher, Savior? (I ask that last one because I think he is ALL of those things, but I realize that I tend to turn to him more as Lord than Teacher, etc. It is something I work on, continuing to develop all aspects of my relationship with him.)</span><br /><br />So, today I will post about how I came to know the Lord as my Saviour. I will tackle the other questions later :)<br /><br />My family went to church (Methodist) until I was 6. We moved to a new town, and my parents weren't big fans of the church there. So, we became Easter/Christmas "Christians" for a while, and as I got older, even that stopped. There were times in high school that, looking back, I can see God calling me. But, I was not ready or willing. I ended up going to a "Christian" college. My degree required me to take two religion classes. I put these off until my senior year (partly because I was working on a double major, etc and had to front-load those classes). In the fall, I took a class on the Old Testament/Hebrew Bible, and in the spring I took a class on the heroes (and heroines) of the ancient world. Through these two classes, I came to the conclusion that there was a God, and the most likely, at least what I had read of the Bible, was true. But, I had VERY little of the New Testament. <br /><br />Then I met my husband. We actually met online through one of the online chat programs. He was raised in the church and had accepted Christ at a young age. Some of our first conversations were about religion and Christianity. He (I don't remember how) got me to read one of the Gospels. I asked him and a female friend of his questions as I read through it. What I read, to me, was obviously true (with the exception of things I just didn't understand/was confused about - which is why I asked questions). This was all during the roughly two months I spent at my parents before going to grad school. At the end of this period, AJU1 also convinced me to find a campus ministry to attend. I chose the one that had some things online, including a Yahoo Group, so I could get to know people before I started to attend. Within a few weeks of attending that campus ministry and church, I had accepted Christ as my Saviour. I can't say what day it actually happened though. See, during the two months of really searching and studying, I prayed a lot of possible "salvation" prayers. Many of them where of the "If you are really there" type, so any of those could have actually been the point of my salvation. I just know that I am certain I am saved now!AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-83408123653136897852009-02-17T09:37:00.001-07:002009-02-17T09:38:31.637-07:00Post IdeasI don't know who is reading this regularly. But, I just haven't had any good ideas stick in my brain long enough to write a post. So, if you have topics you would like me to write about, let me know! I am more than willing to write my views and beliefs on just about anything!AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-59058264231089505632009-02-11T09:56:00.002-07:002009-02-11T10:00:41.108-07:00What Is Number 1 In Your Life?As a Christian, God should be number 1 in my life. But, often times I put life and my family before Him. There are days I don't spend more than 5 minutes with Him in prayer or reading. I do listen to Christian music a lot, but sometimes it is more entertainment than worship. <br /><br />What ever is number 1 in your life is the god of your life. Everyone has a god in their life - whether they admit it or not. But, is your god God? <br /><br />If you want God to be the number one thing in your life, what do you do to make Him number 1? I am trying to getting some reading in in the morning before my daughter wakes up. I am hoping that starting the day off on the right foot will motivate me to spend more time in prayer even when I am busy doing other things. Hopefully it will also allow me to actually listen and meditate on the words of the songs I listen to on the radio.<br /><br />Thoughts?AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-11206272767736959652009-02-03T09:46:00.002-07:002009-02-03T10:00:56.334-07:00The Problem with the Medical IndustryHere is what It hink needs to happen to make medical care more affordable:<br />People need to stop blaming others for things!<br /><br />So, I bet you are think what is she talking about!<br />Well, I think the main reason costs are so high is because of malpractice insurance. Doctors, hospitals, etc are being sued so often that their insurance is high. As a result, they pass that cost on to us. Now, I am not saying we shouldn't be able to sue these people.groups. But, I think something needs to be done to make it so they aren't being sued in cases that nothing (within reason) could have been done. If the doctor followed standard procedure and something happened, then I don't think it is the doctor's fault. Now, if the doctor made a mistake or didn't follow standard procedure, then he/she should be sued. <br /><br />I think lawyers are partly to blame (and not all lawyers - just some). Have you seen the commercials some of them have? They are just fishing for people with cases that could go to court. I bet they have a pretty large stake in these cases - receiving a good percentage of the award. Maybe legislation should be passed to set guidelines for lawyers?<br /><br />I don't know exactly how we are going to get people to sue less, but if it were to happen, I bet medical costs would drop! Maybe then health insurance would be affordable! Maybe then a simple visit to the doctor wouldn't be so expensive!<br /><br />(I am not a fan of socialized health care. I do not want the government controlling insurance, etc. See some of my comments on this back in November - after the election.)AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-27915621096814688292009-01-27T08:50:00.002-07:002009-01-27T09:58:32.673-07:00BaptismBaptize is from the Greek word "Baptizo" which means immersing.<br /><br />Chronologically, one of the first mentions of baptism in the Bible is in Matthew 3:<br /><sup style="font-style: italic;">5</sup><span style="font-style: italic;"> Then Jerusalem, all Judea, and all the region around the Jordan went out to him </span><sup style="font-style: italic;">6</sup><span style="font-style: italic;"> and were baptized by him in the Jordan, confessing their sins. </span>...<br /><sup style="font-style: italic;">11</sup><span style="font-style: italic;"> I indeed baptize you with water unto repentance, but He who is coming after me is mightier than I, whose sandals I am not worthy to carry. He will baptize you with the Holy Spirit and fire.<br /><br /></span><span>Here John the Baptist is</span><span> baptizing Jews pri</span><span>or to Jesus beginning His ministry.</span><span style="font-style: italic;"> </span><span>This baptism was a symbolic washing away of sins committed. It was similar to the washing the high priests did before offering the prayers of the people up to God in the Temple.<br /><br />Later in that chapter, John the Baptist baptizes Jesus:<br /></span><sup style="font-style: italic;">13</sup><span style="font-style: italic;"> Then Jesus came from Galilee to John at the Jordan to be baptized by him. </span><sup style="font-style: italic;">14</sup><span style="font-style: italic;"> And John </span><i style="font-style: italic;">tried to</i><span style="font-style: italic;"> prevent Him, saying, “I need to be baptized by You, and are You coming to me?” </span><br /><sup style="font-style: italic;">15</sup><span style="font-style: italic;"> But Jesus answered and said to him, “Permit </span><i style="font-style: italic;">it to be so</i><span style="font-style: italic;"> now, for thus it is fitting for us to fulfill all righteousness.” Then he allowed Him. </span><br /><sup style="font-style: italic;">16</sup><span style="font-style: italic;"> When He had been baptized, Jesus came up immediately from the water; and behold, the heavens were opened to Him, and He saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and alighting upon Him. </span><sup style="font-style: italic;">17</sup><span style="font-style: italic;"> And suddenly a voice </span><i style="font-style: italic;">came</i><span style="font-style: italic;"> from heaven, saying, “This is My beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased.”<br /><br /></span>Jesus did not need to have the cleansing from sins - as He was sinless. Instead, He was baptized as an example for us. (These verses also give us evidence of the Trinity in that all three parts of God are described individually).<br /><br />Later, at the Great Commission, we are instructed to go and baptize:<br /><span style="font-style: italic;">Matthew 28:</span><br /><sup>19</sup><span style="font-style: italic;"> Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, </span><sup>20</sup><span style="font-style: italic;"> teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, </span><i style="font-style: italic;">even</i><span style="font-style: italic;"> to the end of the age.” Amen.</span><br /><br />It is clear that baptism is something the saved should partake in. But, is it required for salvation?<br />I do not believe it is. First, salvation is by faith and not works. Baptism is a work. Second, one of the thieves at Calvary was saved but not baptized (Luke 23:39-43). There are verses that state baptism and salvation in the same sentence, but if you look at the sentence structure in the Greek, it seems clear that it is not a requirement of salvation (I don't remember the exact verses for this, but if you would like, I can look it up).<br /><br />Now, for the method of baptism: If you read the first line of the post, baptism should be an immersion, because that is what baptism means. Also, that is how it was done in the New Testament - submersion in the river. So, I do not agree with the sprinkling form of baptism. I also don't agree with infant baptism. I believe baptism is something you do in response to faith. It should be done by the saved as an act of obedience to God. It is a form of public confession of our faith. An infant is not able to make that statement of faith, and therefore I don't believe an infant should be baptized. I know some parents do it as a sign they are going to raise the child in the nurture and ammunition of the Lord, but I think a dedication service is a better fit for this statement.<br /><br />Questions? Comments?AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7508527840000270684.post-36605678375545275032009-01-22T12:57:00.002-07:002009-01-22T13:08:14.229-07:00Sanctity of LifeThirty-six years ago, Roe v. Wade was decided, allowing abortion on demand in the United States. I have already posted my views on <a href="http://ssumusings.blogspot.com/2008/10/abortion.html">abortion</a>, but after suffering a miscarriage at the beginning of the year, I have an even greater feeling for babies aborted at six weeks or later. I have ultrasound pictures of our Junior #2 that measured him/her at 6 wks 5 d (although now we feel that the baby may have been old gestationally). It looked like a baby. It is our baby. Our AJU5 is a big sister, with a baby brother or sister in heaven waiting for us. Focus on the Family has a campaign to get women considering an abortion an ultrasound to see their children. I hope this helps these women see what they are doing...<br /><br />Today in the local university's student newspaper, a letter to the editor claims that those of us who are pro-life want to return to the back alley abortion days. This is not the case! We want no child to be aborted (with the exception of to save a mother's life). I wish we lived in a world where sex was saved for marriage. I wish no child was conceived to parents that would consider to abort it. I wish we lived in a perfect world. But, we live in a human world. And our human sin nature is always causing problems. Children are conceived to parents who aren't ready and willing to raise the child. They are conceived to women who aren't wiling to allow the chld to grow inside of them and then give the baby to two adults that are willing to raise it. Instead, we live in a selfish society. We live where what "I" want is more important than what is means to others around me.AJU5's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.com0